There are those in our sparkle filled lives we don’t always publicly thank. Recently, I have been thinking a lot about all the wonderful burlesque partners that we have in this community, and to them I want to say an often overlooked thank you!
All Photos by Lisa Houston Photography for Ska Brewing’s Ska-Lesque show at the Lafayette Hotel.
Whiskey & Fuego is proud to announce our inaugural monthly show, Burlesque Boogie Nights at the Sycamore Den!
Are you ready for a bangin’ good time? Then head out to the Sycamore Den for the first installment of our new monthly show “Burlesque Boogie Nights”. With foxy ladies, blazin’ hips, and performances that will make you glad you left the crib, we’ll have you leaving yelling Boo-YAH!
Catch both shows at 9:15 PM and 10:15 PM.
There is NO COVER but tips are highly encouraged.
Dear Little Rhinestone,
Our beginnings together started joyously, carefully opening your paper pouch to reveal your shining glory and luminous color. Meticulously I created a pattern bringing to life all my showgirl dreams so that you may forever live under the lights, transporting the audience to decadent dreams. This could have been your destiny. This could have been you, but instead your final days will be lived in lost crevasses and corners until one day you are picked up by my bare feet and placed in the mixed bag with the remaining lost stones. There you will sit until you get to live out your new hopeful destiny as a replacement rhinestone for a mended costume. I’m sorry you fell off my tool while trying to place you. I’m sorry that you were tossed on the carpet when my cat decided to jump onto my lap consequently spilling the entire plate of all of your shining siblings. Until you reach your true destination my costume won’t be complete. Rest easy lost rhinestone, for I will find you. Unless you end up in the vacuum, and in that case, sorry about it.
A Sad Showgirl
For the FIRST time in San Diego, we are proud to present the ORIGINAL Burlesque Bingo at the historic Lafayette Hotel!
What is Burlesque Bingo? It’s not just Burlesque…. It’s not just Bingo. It’s the striptease game show where we take it off and you win!
Celebrities and civilians alike have been shouting out ‘Bingo!’ at Audrey DeLuxe’s game show ever since it’s premiere at the world famous Viper Room. She and her cast of bingo girls have been playing games with L.A. ever since.
Now, these bombshells are set to take over the world one bingo card at a time. Win fabulous prizes every round! Are You Game?
Eva Mae Garnet
Ginger N. Whiskey
Valentina On The Rocks
Dinner options will be available but MUST be ordered at the time of ticket purchases. There will not be an option to purchase dinner the night of if you don’t have it included in your tickets.
Doors at 7:00 pm
Dinner at 7:30 pm
Show starts promptly at 8:30 pm
Be sure to check out my contribution to “What is Feminist Lingerie?” in Florence Magazine. The complete article can be read here.
Yesterday was one of those days where the world seemed to be closing in with no hope. I woke up in a panic, having physical reactions to anxiety and distress. Somehow, with the help of loved ones, I managed to get out of bed and get a few chores done. By mid afternoon, I had enough. I called my mom and completely broke down. I cried for a good hour rejecting every single thing she suggested and deeming my situation hopeless.
But something happened after I cried that hard. I felt numb still, and yesterday was not the day to attempt to do anything, but I made a mental note at that moment saying that I would allow myself that day to wallow, but tomorrow, tomorrow I create. Today I woke up inspired. I woke up with solutions rather than doom and gloom. The one thing I realized through that mini day of self-doubt and sorrow was that what makes people great and successful is not their inability to avoid hardships and doubt, but their ability to push through it and still continue to create.
I started thinking about people like Madonna and Beyonce, artists who have created so much material that I haven’t even heard or seen half of what they have done. I don’t particularly care for everything they create, and by no means is everything they put out into the world a masterpiece, but what they do is persevere. They continue to create their art, their songs, their videos, and their visions and put them out into the world. Nothing stops them, and that is why they are so respected in their industry. Granted they have a team helping them, but the core concept is still there, and there is nothing stopping you from building your own team of similarly interested individuals.
So today, if you have been struggling to see the brighter side things, I challenge you to create something for no reason at all. Start that project that has been on the back burner for what seems like ages. Try something new with no intentions of perfecting it. Play, create, and put it out there into the world knowing that the act of creation is what is most important. The rest as they say, will follow. We just have to believe in ourselves, our visions, and our own unique capabilities. After all there is no one exactly like you.
Photo by Michael W. Photography
Attending the 53rd Annual Planned Parenthood Dinner was an honor. The event was a great fundraising success, raising well over $1 million—with more than $240,000 raised from a generous match challenge. Being surrounded by hundreds of people who believed in the good of this organization which brings the community readily accessible facilities that offer care for basic human needs was a heart-warming feeling. But sitting there, listening to the insightful and hard-working guest speakers made it all too obvious the dangers this organization and it’s patients withstand. Living in a world with so much to offer, it’s a cumbersome realization that there are people living among us refusing reason and clinging to hate. One day I hope that the struggles of these men and women are rewarded and the fight for reproductive equality a success.
Photos featuring: Lola Demure, Valentina Unity, Remele Sparks, Gia La Dolce, Millie Marie, J, and Bawdy Show producers Matt and Lily
Dress I’m wearing is from South Park’s Bad Madge in San Diego.
One of my goals this year has been to do a few costume upgrades on all of my signature acts. I’ve been searching for inspiration in mostly the avant garde genre with special detail to Alexander McQueen and Bob Mackie. I’ve especially been attention to draping, lines, and fabric patterns and found that simplicity and drama make for a phenomenal work of art. With the LA Fashion district so close, it’s both a blessing, and a financial curse when it comes to creating the costumes of my dreams. 😉 I can’t wait to share with everyone my new costumes, but for the moment, take a look as some of my favorite inspiring pieces. The details are exquisite.
Some of you may already know this, but beyond being a performer, a producer, and a traveling showgirl, I am also a mother to a very feisty little girl who will be three this April. From the moment that I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, literally the next day, I was onstage and determined to not let this pregnancy trample my dreams of being a traveling burlesque performer. I worked diligently throughout my pregnancy, altering costumes and acts, to better support my growing belly and growing ambition. I performed up until a month before she was born. When she was only two months old, I traveled with her across the country for my first burlesque competition in Charleston, South Carolina.
As she got older, I continued to travel and perform whenever I was given the opportunity. She came with me to Charlotte when she was young and still breast-feeding. Later I went to Seattle, Texas, Toronto, New York, London, and so many other places on my own. Sometimes I would opt for a quick trip, landing the day of the show and leaving directly after the conclusion of the event, which could be either a night or a weekend. Sometimes my husband would care for her like when I took off for nine days to go to New Orleans and Albuquerque. But one thing was for sure, the older she became, the more difficult it was to leave her.
Every trip I cry. Not just a few tears streaming down my face, I mean ugly cry. I text my girlfriend, Sassy Stiletto, to remind myself why I do what I do, and if I am making the right decision as a parent. Each time I read her response through my tears telling me that if I don’t take care of myself, of my own dreams and aspirations, then I will have nothing to give my daughter. And although that makes me feel better, as I tuck her into bed, or kiss her goodbye at the airport repeating the one phrase that I have told her since she was an infant in my arms, “Mommy always comes back to you,” it doesn’t make it any easier. But still, I get on that plane, and I give the audience every ounce of me that I possibly have to give.
Once I get to my destination it’s usually easier. I see my friends who I don’t always see and performances that inspire me to continue bettering my craft, but every now and then you just have to have a moment to yourself. I remember when I was competing in London, about an hour before I was supposed to hit the stage with my stage make-up in tact and nervous energy flowing rampantly, I heard this family from the other table call to their little girl, about three years older than my daughter, “Brody”. Now Brody is not a very common name for little girls, and I had yet to meet another one until this moment, but I looked to the family and clarified whether or not their daughter’s name was Brody. Of course when they responded yes, I sat there, attempting to continue a polite conversation while fighting back tears. Finally, as my voice started to crack and I could no longer hid the tears running down my face as I was forcing myself to smile, I excused myself directly to the bathroom where I broke down in a crying hysteria all the while trying to save most of my stage make-up.
At the moment, I have cut back my travel significantly. This decision wasn’t made directly because of my daughter, other goals and aspirations definitely weighed in, but at this very, very, very, VERY difficult stage (yes moms to older children, I know it only gets worse – I mean new “challenges” later on present themselves) I thought it would be best to spend more time with her until we get past this phase. But if you do find yourself traveling with little ones, I have a few tips to help you survive.
- Remember the reasons why you do this. Being a mother means giving so much of yourself to someone else. It’s easy to lose your own identity in this mix and will continue to be a juggling act as they get older. Remember to take care of yourself and remember your dreams pre-baby.
- Facetime/Skype often. Technology is remarkable, and calling and seeing my baby girl, even before she talked, really helped to alleviate the guilt and longing… a bit.
- Have a support system back home you can trust. Having people who know your child, and who you trust with your baby’s life is imperative. Whether it’s mom/dad, grandparents, relatives, or just a very good family friend to take care of your little ones, make the decision that you will be most relieved with.
- Give all the information you can before you leave. Make all the lists you need to feel like if something happens to your child, they know where to call. It’s okay to have plans A through Z mapped out if it’s going to make you feel better. Whether or not they will follow it to a T is another story, but if it will help you sleep at night, then do what you have to do.
- Have a special phrase for you and your little one. I was terrified that Brody was going to think I left her for good, so I always reiterate to her that no matter what, I will come back. Every time I get off Facetime or when I leave, I repeat this to her, and after a while, she just knows. It’s almost like a mantra for just you two, even if they can’t repeat it yet.
- Allow yourself moments to disconnect. Don’t forget to make friends. Have fun. Do all the things that non-parents do when you are gone. Don’t feel guilty about having fun. If you spent all your time doing that, then what’s the point of leaving in the first place.
Being a mama and a traveling showgirl is a difficult challenge. But I promise you, you can do it. <3