Glamour isn’t about how much money you spend, or having all the latest trends. Glamour is about creating a polished look with self confidence to back it up. Creating a well-curated and glamorous look may seem like a big undertaking, so to get you started, I’ve highlighted three of my favorite ways to spruce up a look into a glorious affair. Hope you enjoy, and have fun experimenting with your own personalized style.
Dear woman on the street,
You are not my competition.
Dear talented sisters working behind the scenes,
You are not who I strive to be.
Dear gorgeous beauties who time and time again I have been
assured of your jealousy towards me to validate my ego,
You are not my end goal.
Hello familiar face,
Restless eyes who has seen what I’ve seen,
Hands who have touched what I’ve felt,
And heart who knows my deepest yearnings,
You are my only competition.
My daily task list consists of goals and aspirations that are set
day after day so that the only person I am better than,
The only person who I want to rise above,
Is the girl who stared back at me yesterday.
The girl shedding her skin,
To become a better woman tomorrow.
Photo by Manny Man Photography
I’ve been thinking a few feisty thoughts about feminine power and societies response to it. Throughout history there are examples of societies taking steps to lessen a woman’s power, both physically and through weakening her spirit. We see this in the battle for women’s rights to choose what happens to their bodies, we see this through laws that create women as second class citizens, and we see this through the social normative behaviors that constantly belittle women till they themselves believe their power is less than. Lately, I have been thinking about these behaviors in relationship to a woman’s ability to give birth and her relationship with that birthing experience.
Almost four years ago I gave birth to my daughter. It was an experience I would never forget and that I was fortunate enough to have. When I found out I was pregnant, I chose to go through a midwife and to have my baby naturally and out of a hospital. For living in the states, going through a midwife is incredibly taboo. Besides the point that we live in a healthcare based society, the idea of having a child naturally, especially to American women, is a nightmare. We are led to believe that the pain is so great we could not stand it. We are told that if there are drugs to numb the pain, why even endure the efforts? American women are so used to being told that we are weak that many no longer believe they are capable of giving birth, one of the most natural experiences there is.
Now before you start believing that I am so naive and in my own perfect world bubble, I get it. I understand why we would believe that. I battled with the same thought process every time someone questioned my logic and capabilities to go through with a natural birth. And the fact that I was planning on a having a baby outside of the hospital, LORD, I have never received so many concerned inquiries/prayers/wtf and I doings in my life. The fact of the matter was, I was tired of being told that I wasn’t as strong as I know I am. Ladies, we are fierce, amazing, fabulous life-giving beings, and even if you never decide to have children, just knowing AND believing that fact is empowering.
Child-bearing is a power that we should take strength in and know that we can do, and we can do without the assistance of what is considered normal American health care procedures. We are not fragile. If you have a low-risk healthy pregnancy and labor past 37 weeks, you are physically capable of surviving the pains of normal birth. That’s not to say that no women needs modern medicine. There are various reasons why a doctor would become necessary; high-risk birth, multiples, pre-term labor, extensive labor, or sometimes the baby is literally just too big. These are a few of the times when it makes sense to seek a doctor. But what I am referring to specifically is that we grow up believing that the normal procedure for giving birth is being drugged up with pain killing and labor inducing medications in a hospital bed before ever giving any indication of physically needing them. The first thought of going into labor should not be a reach for unnecessary medication.
It used to be that many women would deliver at home, and even now in many European countries it is normal practice to only go to a midwife unless something is going wrong in your pregnancy. This shift has happened for multiple reasons, commercialization of the health care industry, a shift from midwifery to the hospital system, and social practices of over medicating to name a few, but there is one more that we don’t talk about too often. The continually exaggeration of women as weak and incapable creatures who can’t bear pain, despite our bodies being designed to overcome.
So the next time you may or may not hear a friend, family member, or even some random Facebook friend (the one you aren’t quite sure where you met them, but you feel it may be too rude to delete them JUST in case), talk about natural childbirth, don’t let the first thing you think or say be, “Oh I could NEVER do that!” You can. You have that strength. You have that power. You have that capability, and your body is fucking magnificent! Now if you choose not to because you just don’t want to go through that pain, fine, to each their own. But you are much stronger than you ever thought.
Whiskey & Fuego is proud to announce our inaugural monthly show, Burlesque Boogie Nights at the Sycamore Den!
Are you ready for a bangin’ good time? Then head out to the Sycamore Den for the first installment of our new monthly show “Burlesque Boogie Nights”. With foxy ladies, blazin’ hips, and performances that will make you glad you left the crib, we’ll have you leaving yelling Boo-YAH!
Catch both shows at 9:15 PM and 10:15 PM.
There is NO COVER but tips are highly encouraged.
There’s nothing like being on the beach early in the morning while most people are just starting to wake up. Luckily, I teamed up with Rebekka Payne photography for some fun fashion shoots off the shores of La Jolla. Wardrobe was provided by the ever talented NinkoTea Designs.
For the FIRST time in San Diego, we are proud to present the ORIGINAL Burlesque Bingo at the historic Lafayette Hotel!
What is Burlesque Bingo? It’s not just Burlesque…. It’s not just Bingo. It’s the striptease game show where we take it off and you win!
Celebrities and civilians alike have been shouting out ‘Bingo!’ at Audrey DeLuxe’s game show ever since it’s premiere at the world famous Viper Room. She and her cast of bingo girls have been playing games with L.A. ever since.
Now, these bombshells are set to take over the world one bingo card at a time. Win fabulous prizes every round! Are You Game?
Eva Mae Garnet
Ginger N. Whiskey
Valentina On The Rocks
Dinner options will be available but MUST be ordered at the time of ticket purchases. There will not be an option to purchase dinner the night of if you don’t have it included in your tickets.
Doors at 7:00 pm
Dinner at 7:30 pm
Show starts promptly at 8:30 pm
Yesterday was one of those days where the world seemed to be closing in with no hope. I woke up in a panic, having physical reactions to anxiety and distress. Somehow, with the help of loved ones, I managed to get out of bed and get a few chores done. By mid afternoon, I had enough. I called my mom and completely broke down. I cried for a good hour rejecting every single thing she suggested and deeming my situation hopeless.
But something happened after I cried that hard. I felt numb still, and yesterday was not the day to attempt to do anything, but I made a mental note at that moment saying that I would allow myself that day to wallow, but tomorrow, tomorrow I create. Today I woke up inspired. I woke up with solutions rather than doom and gloom. The one thing I realized through that mini day of self-doubt and sorrow was that what makes people great and successful is not their inability to avoid hardships and doubt, but their ability to push through it and still continue to create.
I started thinking about people like Madonna and Beyonce, artists who have created so much material that I haven’t even heard or seen half of what they have done. I don’t particularly care for everything they create, and by no means is everything they put out into the world a masterpiece, but what they do is persevere. They continue to create their art, their songs, their videos, and their visions and put them out into the world. Nothing stops them, and that is why they are so respected in their industry. Granted they have a team helping them, but the core concept is still there, and there is nothing stopping you from building your own team of similarly interested individuals.
So today, if you have been struggling to see the brighter side things, I challenge you to create something for no reason at all. Start that project that has been on the back burner for what seems like ages. Try something new with no intentions of perfecting it. Play, create, and put it out there into the world knowing that the act of creation is what is most important. The rest as they say, will follow. We just have to believe in ourselves, our visions, and our own unique capabilities. After all there is no one exactly like you.
Photo by Michael W. Photography
Not too long ago, I was working with Kathleen of MKS Images. I drove up north one night to do a much overdue photoshoot with her right before a show. We started shooting in our normal rhythm, but quickly realized that Kathleen had forgotten to charge her batteries from her shoot the night before. Not wanting to let the time go to waste, she decided to break out her infrared camera in hopes that something interesting would come from the shoot. We were both astounded with the results. The camera gave the images a painterly quality, while creating really cool colors that I’m not too used to seeing in photography. Every time I think back to this shoot, I think of what results can come if you just let go of expectations. After all, some of the best things in life begin as complete surprises.
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There was once a time that burlesque boomed in San Diego. Located in what was once called “The Stingaree” at 314 F Street in downtown San Diego, The Hollywood Theatre offered a stage to many striptease artists like Tempest Storm and Betty Rowland. Owned and operated by the dedicated Bob Johnston and his wife Fanny Myers, the Hollywood Theatre was re-opened as such after the Exposition at Balboa Park ended the original Liberty Theatre.
Prior to and during World War II, the theatre flourished when an influx of service men into San Diego made for regular patrons. Downtown San Diego became packed with military attendees waiting to see the shows. At the height of the theatre’s attendance, they were doing six shows on a Saturday and five shows on a Sunday. They were lucky to be the only “Big Girl Revue” in the city. The show featured a chorus line of thirty women, singers, dancers, strippers, comedians, magicians, and more. The show itself changed every two weeks along with the headliner. During this time, the theatre was incredibly successful and afforded Bob and his wife many luxury items that were very much appreciated after the Great Depression.
In the beginning of her career, Lil St. Cyr was a regular cast member and was mentored by veterans such as Janne “Irish” Cafara. “Irish” began dancing as a feature when her son was tragically killed by a drunk driver. In an attempt to grieve in San Diego, she took the part at the Hollywood Theatre. The theatre proved to be an effective measure to remedy the grief while teaming up with old friend Claude Mathis, and mentoring budding performers like Lili. “Irish” proved to have an emotional attachment to the Hollywood Theatre and stood by it’s side even as burlesque entertainment faded.
Many cast members came to work at the Hollywood Theatre for the ability to settle down in San Diego, raise families, and enjoy the material comforts their jobs afforded. As “Irish” once put it, I think I played every state in the United States, the big theatres in all the big cities. When I got to San Diego I just don’t know, I just never wanted to leave here.”
There were many headliners who passed through the Hollywood Theatre, but Big Bobbi “Texas” Roberts remained a favorite in-house feature. She was tall with brazen redhair, and was referred to as a “tree-topper” because of her height in both heels and a head dress. She was billed as “6 Feet 1 of Texas Fun” and always stood out from the others. Even after her death, fans reminisced about the statuesque beauty.
By the mid-1950’s, the burlesque industry was falling apart. Top burlesque stars took their craft into nightclubs, radio, film and television. Although the Hollywood theatre survived longer than most due to San Diego’s military bases, the prosperity of the theatre finally came to an end in the 1960’s. As ticket sales stalled, the production quality of the show diminished. Finally, with the movie houses taking attendance from classic, live, burlesque striptease, the Hollywood Theatre, and for awhile the burlesque art form became obsolete. The decision to close the Hollywood in 1970 was difficult but necessary.
For a time, the Hollywood Theatre was at the center of downtown and gave a home to many performers and attendees. For decades, the theatre was recognized as the only place in San Diego that was exclusively dedicated to presenting classic American burlesque.
Furlonger, Jaye. San Diego’s Bygone Burlesque: The Famous Hollywood Theatre. https://www.sandiegohistory.org/journal/v51-1/pdf/2005-1_hollywood.pdf
Zemeckis, Leslie. Goddess of Love Incarnate: The Life of Stripteuse Lili St. Cyr. Counterpoint Press 2015. Page 119-120.
Photos Pulled from https://www.facebook.com/Vintage-San-Diego-181625028554101/
I started this post as a laundry list of reasons why I sometimes don’t attend other local burlesque shows. The reasons ranged from money to getting a sitter to downright exhaustion. But the longer I looked at these reasons, the more I realized that these were not circumstances that were isolated to performers, producers, or the burlesque community. These were reasons why audience members across the board may not attend a show.
As I sat there, reading what I wrote, I began to appreciate every last audience member that has come out to our productions even more. They have taken the time to plan an evening around us, make plans for any children they may have, gotten dressed up, withstood any exhaustion they may have to support our troupe and catch a show. That means more than I can ever express.
I know it can be easy to get caught up in numbers and preshow stress, but always take a moment to be thankful for every person that makes their way out to your show. Without them, we would only be performing for ourselves and a few friends.
We love you guys!